As the 2017 is
slowly saying goodbye and since this is the time of everyone expecting the
new year and writing down their resolutions, I prepared some of my own. These
resolutions shouldn’t just be for the new year, they should be something we
aim for every day. And as my blogger friend Sindi said in her latest post – I
don’t have New Year resolutions, I have life plans.
At this point I
would like to thank you all for your support throughout this year and I wish you
all a wonderful start of 2018!
LOVE YOURSELF
For me, 2017 was a
big year. Yes, I'm only 20 years old but I feel like I grew up, found myself
and really learned a lot about myself, about relationships and about the world
in general. The most important breakthrough of this year was definitely realizing
how important loving and accepting yourself, your own body is. ‘You can truly
love others when you truly love yourself’ might sound so cliché, but I
realized it is oh so true. Easier said than done, but you can start with
small steps. Stop looking in the mirror with negative thoughts in your mind
and instead, say ‘I’m beautiful’ to yourself. Not everyday will be great and you
will not always like everything you see. And that’s okay. We all have our ups
and downs, we all have good and bad days. Try to make every day a good one
with a positive attitude, with a compliment and a smile on your face.
DON'T COMPARE
YOURSELF TO OTHERS
This is probably the
second most important thing I’ve learned this year. We are all so unique, so
special, so beautiful. We all have our perfectly imperfect minds and
perfectly imperfect bodies. Comparing your unique self to others, especially people
you follow on social media, will only make you feel worse. Yes, role models are
great, follow them, let them be your inspiration – but don’t copy everything they
do and don’t compare yourself to them. Not everything you’ll see on social
media is true.
MAKE TIME
… for yourself, for
your family and friends, for a day off, for a trip to somewhere you’ve always
wanted to go, for a run or exercising with your bestie, movie night, coffee
with a friend you haven't seen in months, or shopping. Taking and making time
for things you like to do should be a priority. Because doings the things you
like fills you up with positive energy and makes you happy - and that's
what's important.
REMOVE TOXIC PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE
You have to make time for 'your people', and on the other hand, stop letting people who don’t support you and judge
you in your life. Constructive criticism is always welcome, but if someone is
only putting you down, they’re not your true friend. I lost a few people that
were a big part of my life in this year, and met some amazing ones. People
change, and that’s okay.
STOP APOLOGIZING FOR
EVERYTHING
I'm the one that used to apologize for everything, even if I haven't
done anything wrong. Most of us say sorry when someone else bumps into us on the
street, right? Most of us apologize for the way we're dressed, if someone has
a problem with our outfit. Or the way we cut our hair. Or how we feel about
something. Or someone. Why say sorry when you need some alone time? When you'd
like to have more information? Or when you have a great idea you want to
share?
Stop always apologizing for the things you like and believe in,
rephrase them instead. Repleace the negative sorry with something positive. It
will make you and your co-speaker feel better. One of the most common things
we say sorry for is when someone does us a favor. Stop saying 'sorry you had
to do this for me', express grattitude with 'thanks for doing me a favor'
instead.
What are your resolutions for 2018? |
Leto 2017 se počasi poslavlja in pričakovanje novega leta je čas, ko si začnemo zapisovati svoje novoletne zaobljube. Zato sem za današnjo objavo pripravila nekaj svojih. So pa to zaobljube, ki niso namenjene zgolj novemu letu, ampak nekaj, h čemur bi morali stremeti vsak dan. In kot je blogerska kolegica Sindi zapisala v svoji zadnji objavi – nimam novoletnih zaobljub, imam življenjske cilje. Na tej točki bi se vsakemu izmed vas rada zahvalila za podporo skozi letošnje leto in vam zaželela čudovit začetek leta 2018!
IMEJ SE RAD/A
Zame je bilo leto 2017 zagotovo prelomno na večih področjih. Res, da
imam komaj 20 let, a se mi zdi, da sem v letošnjem letu odrasla, spoznala marsikaj
o sami sebi, o medčloveških odnosih in na splošno o svetu. Najbolj pomembno v
tem letu je bilo zame spoznanje, kako pomembna je ljubezen do same sebe, do
svojega telesa. 'Druge imaš lahko zares rad šele ko imaš rad sebe' je morda
res zlajnana fraza, za katero pa sem ugotovila, da še kako drži. Lažje reči, kot
storiti, a treba je začeti z majhnimi koraki. Znebi se negativnih misli še preden
stopiš pred ogledalo, namesto tega si reči 'lep/a sem'. Ne bo vsak dan super
in ne bo ti vedno všeč prav vse na sebi. In to je čisto okej. Vsi imamo
vzpone in padce, dobre in slabe dni. A s pozitivnim odnosom, komplimentom in
nasmehom na obrazu lahko iz vsakega dneva narediš dober dan.
NE PRIMERJAJ SE Z DRUGIMI
To je zame drugo najbolj pomembno spoznanje letošnjega leta. Vsi smo
tako unikatni, posebni, čudoviti. Vsi imamo svoje popolne nepopolnosti. S
primerjanjem sebe z drugimi, še posebej z ljudmi, ki jih poznamo zgolj preko
socialnih omrežij, se bomo počutili le še slabše. Seveda, vzorniki so super,
naj bodo tvoja inspiracija – a ne kopiraj vsega, kar počnejo in ne primerjaj
se z njimi. Ni vse, kar objavijo na spletu tudi resnično.
VZEMI SI ČAS
Zase, za prijatelje in družino, za prost dan, za izlet nekam, kamor
si si vedno želel/a, za tek ali telovadbo s prijateljem/ico, za filmski večer,
kavo s prijateljico, ki je nisi videla že mesece ali za nakupovanje. Vzeti si
čas za stvari, ki so ti všeč, bi morala biti prioriteta. To so stvari, ki nas
napolnijo s pozitivno energijo in nas delajo srečne – in to je tisto, kar
šteje.
PREKINI STIKE Z NEGATIVNIMI LJUDMI
Vzemi si čas za tiste 'prave' ljudi, po drugi strani pa ne zapravljaj časa za tiste, ki si tega ne
zaslužijo. Za ljudi, ki te ne podpirajo. Za ljudi, ki te ne spoštujejo. Konstruktivna kritika je vedno
dobrodošla, ampak če te nekdo zgolj spravlja v slabo voljo, ni tvoj pravi
prijatelj. Tudi sama sem v tem letu izgubila nekaj ljudi, ki so bili prej
velik del mojega življenja, a hkrati spoznala nekaj čudovitih ljudi. Ljudje
se spreminjamo, in to je čisto okej.
NEHAJ SE OPRAVIČEVATI ZA VSAKO STVAR
Jaz sem ena izmed tistih, ki so se včasih opravičevali za vsako
malenkost – pa čeprav nisem naredila nič narobe. Mnogo ljudi se opraviči
takrat, ko se nekdo drug zaleti v njih na ulici. Mnogo se jih opravičuje če
kdo kritizira njihova oblačila. Ali pričesko. Ali zaradi tega, kaj čutimo do
neke stvari. Ali mogoče do nekoga. Zakaj se bi opravičevali, če potrebujemo
čas zase? Ali če želimo nekaj vprašati? Ali če želimo svojo super idejo
deliti še z drugimi?
Nehaj se opravičevati za stvari, ki so ti pri srcu in za stvari, v katere
verjameš. Raje obrni stavek tako, da namesto besede oprosti uporabiš nekaj
pozitivnega. Najbolj pogosto opravičevanje je zagotovo takrat, ko nam nekdo
naredi uslugo. Zakaj ne bi namesto 'oprosti, ker si moral/a to narediti zame'
uporabili 'hvala, ker si mi naredil/a uslugo'? Lažje bo tebi in sogovorniku.
Kaj pa so tvoje zaobljube za leto 2018?
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Photo: Gregor Mljač
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